I understand that sometimes words are not enough to fully explain something. I understand that sometimes there are just not the right words to say in a moment when someone is experiencing true pain. However, I have come to understand that words are powerful.
What we say to others, what we say to ourselves. Words are powerful.
Speaking just to say something is a lot like eating corn. Corn is like the candy of the vegetable world. You think you are doing good, by saying something, but like corn, the value (nutritional or otherwise) is not really there. I never really understood what it meant to be slow to speak, but I am learning that having quick, witty comebacks are not the meatiest part of a conversation that spurs growth.
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. -Ephesians 4:29
I just read a blog article about how relationships are easy. It was pointed out that we often look for marriage as something that is supposed to make us happy, when really it is more something that is supposed to make us grow. I think that there is some truth in that. I think that it is the same as the way we talk to each other (which, we all know, communication is a big part of being in relation with each other). How much of our conversation is spurring growth? How much of our conversation is about building up? How much of our conversation is spoken in love?
Yet Ephesians says that we should speak words that build up, because it will give grace to those who hear. Give grace. Isn’t that wonderful and beautiful? Yet, how can we really speak words that make us stronger if our hearts are not overflowing with His words?
Speak love. Give grace.