Originally, I was going to title this post “While You’re Waiting,” but I realize now that would have been incorrect. I was going to talk about trusting God while you wait on finding a job or spouse or life direction, but none of those things involve waiting.
I remember hearing once: “It doesn’t matter where you go, it matters who you are becoming.”
Each choice we make shapes who we are becoming. Waiting is passive; waiting is assuming jobs or spouses fall into your lap. That’s not how it works. Now obviously there are times it feels like everything falls into place, but I think you find yourself in certain situations because of choices you have made. I know you’ve heard the comparison between between your daily choices and running a marathon. You don’t wake up one day without training and run a marathon. It is a process. It is the running and working out when you don’t feel like it–especially when you don’t feel like it. I’m not saying anything new, but still, it is something I tend to forget.
During one of the fall retreats where I was a sponsor, we had morning small group time where we had to answer the question: “Where do you see yourself in ten years?” We had to reflect on what we were doing right now that will impact who we are in ten years.
Anne Lamott writes:
“You have to make mistakes to find out who you aren’t. You take the action, and the insight follows: You don’t think your way into becoming yourself.”
I want to make choices that make me into the person that trusts God and doesn’t worry about little things I can’t change. I also want to recognize there are things I can change. I can change my attitude–I can choose happiness over feeling depressed. I can choose a salad over french fries. I can choose to run when I want to watch Netflix. I can choose trust over fear.
Meg Jay, author of The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter–And How to Make the Most of Them Now, writes:
“Forget about having an identity crisis and get some identity capital.”
“Do something that adds value to who you are. Do something that’s an investment in who you might want to be next.”