I have been a fan of Donald Miller’s writing since I first listened to Blue Like Jazz on audiobook during a trip home from college per a friend’s recommendation. Since then I have read everything he has written. His book, A Million Miles in a Thousand Years, continues to be one of my favorite books. I connect with his writing style and his authenticity.
Scary Close reflects Donald Miller’s growth since his Blue Like Jazz days. Scary Close is different. It is just as honest as his other books, but this book is clearly reflective of a mature person. Scary Close is about Donald Miller’s journey to become a healthy person. It is his journey of overcoming unhealthy relationship habits. He got help and intentionally worked on his issues. He is real about his issues (codependency, people pleasing, fear of commitment, etc.), and his honesty is refreshing.
Donald Miller lifts up the importance of our relationships and the importance of true connection. Not only does he share about his relationship with his now-wife, Betsy, but his story reflects how various people have impacted him. He writes:
“I don’t know why it is, exactly, but the people with the healthiest self-esteem are also the greatest at intimacy. I’m not talking about arrogant people. I’m talking about people who know they are both good and bad yet believe at the deepest level they are really good for people. It’s a beautiful moment when somebody wakes up to this reality, when they realize God created them so other people could enjoy them, not just endure them” (p. 127).
With a subtitle like “dropping the act and finding true intimacy,” you may not know what you are getting yourself into with this book. This book is for people who have struggled in relationships. I really enjoyed this book, but I will be real with you: if you are looking for a book to give you easy steps to follow to become a healthy person, this is not the book for you. However, if you are looking for a honest book with someone’s story about making his way out of isolation and loneliness, get this book. Donald Miller tells his story of his experiences which hopefully will inspire people to take the necessary steps toward wholeness and healing.
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